Have you ever found yourself wondering…
“What is the secret to….?”
“What is the best way to…?”
“How do I finally let this go?”
“When I get in shape / make enough money / get over my fears, I will….”
“This better be my saving grace…”
“I just need to find the right….”
Stop. Just, stop. Take a breath.
Sure, there are tricks of the trade. There are ways of tricking ourselves into taking steps forward. There are ways to speed up the process. But perhaps these can also be ways of avoiding and skirting around the truth.
The truth is, there is real pain and fear inside of each one of us. The more willing we are to face it all and share about it, the more we are going to transform, expand and grow into a more powerful self.
What are you searching for? What magic potion are you looking for to make your life better?
I’ll tell you mine. I’ve got a whole list and this is only part of it.
I’m searching for ways that make me feel more worthy, valuable, impactful, and relevant. I’m searching for ways to stop my emotional eating. I’m searching for ways to live a more organized and balanced life. I’m searching for more clarity.
There are millions of resources to address all of my above needs. There are therapies and treatments and apps and medications and camps and retreats and magic spells, too. I’m not saying these don’t help or don’t work. I’m saying, what is needed is YOU.
You are the special sauce.
When you combine those treatments and tricks and spells with your intention, commitment, confidence, trust and desire you will most definitely begin to experience results. When you are willing to sit with your fears and pain; be more vulnerable, courageous, and forgiving, you will feel more of that confidence and trust. It’s no easy process.
More importantly, when you begin to love yourself more, have more patience, be o.k. with your slips and falls, and stop giving so much energy and time to your inner critic, you will begin to experience more freedom. That is the ultimate feeling. Freedom.
You must understand it, go into it, examine it, give your heart and your mind, with everything that you have, to find out a way of living differently. That depends on you, and not on someone else, because in this there is no teacher, no pupil; there is no leader, there is no guru; there is no Master, no Savior. You yourself are the teacher and the pupil; you are the Master; you are the guru; you are the leader; you are everything.
So please stop searching for something outside of you. Begin to trust in your abilities. Share your stories. Connect with and surround yourself with others who are willing to be their most courageous selves.
And from this place, the tools and tips and tricks you find will aide in your evolution. They will enhance your life experience and add flavor and color and magic to your life. By all means, keep seeking them out. There is so much wisdom and there are many positive role models out there. But know that YOU are the special sauce. YOU are the secret ingredient.
Your true transformation comes from within and happens when you are ready to dive deep.
You, my dear, have what it takes. And we’re in this together.
I believe in you.